As August comes to a close, I'd like to focus some attention on the importance of feeling your true emotions, rather than resisting them or making yourself wrong for having them.

I'm pleased to offer a great article written by a terrific life balance coach Kirsten Mahoney, Founder of Insight Out Life Coaching, on honoring what you feel, and learning from your authentic emotions. Read on for more...

Live Your True Spirit

Join us for the September offering of my Live Your True Spirit workshop.  Beginning September 8th, we'll meet on Tuesday nights for six weeks, for those wishing to gain empowered group support to make vital life or career changes.  Click here for more info.

Create Your Life Breakthrough! 

Also, in September, back by popular demand, Beth Leas and I are holding three Create Your Life Breakthrough! workshops that uniquely combine the wisdom of the tarot with powerful life coaching to reveal new insights and move you forward.  Click here for more.   Join us for an experience of clarity, discovery and possibility.

Thank you for reading and sharing.  Looking forward to connecting with you soon.

Happy breakthroughs,

Kathy

P.S. This Fall, I'm presenting some neat workshops for a number of wonderful women's groups and organizations in Connecticut and on the West Coast.  Please check out my Breakdown Breakthrough speaking roster for details.  Looking forward to connecting with you soon!

Live Your True Spirit
6-Week Breakthrough Workshop with Kathy Caprino

6 Weeks - Tuesday evenings, 6:00 - 8:00 pm, $595
September 8, 15, 22, 29, October 6, 13
Total Life Care Center, Norwalk, CT

Each week for six weeks, in a small, informal group we will meet to explore what needs to be expressed and honored in your life in order to increase movement, ease, excitement, and joy. Through discussion, exercises, imagery, and exploration, you'll get in touch with your unique spirit and essence as a special and deeply valued individual on this planet now, and find new, energizing and practical ways to begin walking down a more expansive and fulfilling path in both life and work.

LOCATION:
Total Life Care Center
152 East Avenue
Norwalk, CT http://www.tlccenter.com

PROGRAM FEE: $595 for six-week program

TO REGISTER: CLICK HERE

FOR MORE INFO: CLICK HERE

Register Now! Space is limited to 10 participants per workshop and seats go quickly.
 

Create Your Life Breakthrough!
Through the Mysteries of Tarot and the Power of Life Coaching
with Kathy Caprino and Beth Leas

This unique workshop combines the wisdom of the Tarot with the power of life coaching to help you release the blocks that are holding you back, and reveal a wondrous new way of being present and powerful in your life.

Saturday, September 12, 2009
10:00 am to 12:30 pm, $125 
Noelle Spa for Beauty and Wellness
Stamford, CT 
For more info and to register, click here.

Monday, September 14, 2009
7:00 to 9:00 pm, $125
Intelligent Skin Sense (ISS) Spa
1275 Post Road, Suite 1
Fairfield, CT 06824
Register by phone: 203.557.0868 or write to Marlene at: mk@intelligentskinsense.com

Wednesday, September 30, 2009
7:00 to 9:00 pm, $125
Total Life Care Center
152 East Avenue
Norwalk, CT 
Register: write to kathy@elliacommunications.com

Space limited to 20 participants per group.  Register now!

By Kirsten Mahoney

Encouraging being unhappy may seem like an unlikely offering coming from someone who purports to help people live more fulfilling, joyous lives but stick with me here for a few moments and I'll show you how being unhappy could provide your key to contentment.  Many people, including myself, sometimes feel burdened by messages from the popular media implying we are only one positive affirmation or funny joke away from everlasting happiness. We are told with the right dosage of such things as positive thinking, regular exercise and expressions of gratitude we can unlock the secrets to our bliss. 

I don't know about you, but I'll admit I feel attracted to the notion that I may have unlimited control over my emotional ups and downs. I am drawn in by such pronouncements as, "Change your thinking, change your life."  In the end, however, I find myself feeling more trumped than triumphant. My original sadness is often compounded by my sense of failure to apply these simple offerings successfully, resulting in my happiness slipping that much further from my grasps.

It's not just me, either; I have seen this same behavior in my friends, colleagues and clients. A friend once describe it as "double dipping," feeling bad about something and then feeling bad that you are feeling bad about it--quite the vicious cycle to say the least.  My sense of what is going on isn't just that we don't like feeling unhappy, it's that we feel that it is wrong to feel unhappy or angry or sad and that we will be punished in some way for it.  One client even articulated it as such.  She lamented, "I don't want to be sad because then I will just attract more sadness." The fact is, sad things happen, marriages break up, homes go into foreclosure, we lose our jobs, people die. Having unhappy feelings about these things is only human and natural and, in the end, healthy!

As part of the beautiful spectrum of emotions, feeling unhappy, believe it or not, plays a critical role in teaching us about ourselves.  It would be like removing the color red from the rainbow simply because it wasn't as pretty or made you feel as good as the color purple. In continuing with that same analogy, we wouldn't even have the color purple if it wasn't for the red, and we wouldn't appreciate the elation of happiness if it wasn't for the depth of sadness.    
 
Honor Unhappiness!

To cultivate an appreciation of the benefits of unhappiness, for the next month, I invite you to embrace your unhappiness and the unhappiness of those around you.  Feel free to engage in any of these offerings or create some of your own. 

• You know how it happens, when you're watching It's a Wonderful Life, and you're trying not to cry?  Well, next time you're watching a sad movie or television show or reading a heartbreaking novel and feel like crying, go ahead and let those tears flow.
• When you're feeling unhappy take a moment to get to know your feelings.  Notice how it feels in your body. Does it affect your posture, your tone of voice, the way you walk? Do you feel heavy? Is there a sense of emptiness or stillness?
• The next time you're consoling a friend and find yourself about to tell them affectionately, "Don't cry, it will be OK," you might say instead, "Feel free to cry as much as you like, it's good for you." 
• Instead of reflexively reaching for that remote control or telephone or some such diversion to distract you as soon as you feel those telltale signs of unhappiness, grab a journal instead and write about your feelings.  See where it takes you..

And not to worry... for most of us the time we spend honoring our unhappiness will not lead us forever into the depths of despair.  As the seasons change, so will our feelings. When the time is right the storm clouds will pass, the sun will come out and there will be rainbows with their cornucopia of glorious colors for us to appreciate all that much more again.

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About Kirsten Mahoney:

If you're feeling overwhelmed, over-worked and over-committed, Kirsten Mahoney, a certified Life Balance Coach and founder of Insight Out Life Coaching, can empower you to live a less stressful, more balanced life. She offers time-management, stress reduction and life balance support to her clients through one-on-one coaching, workshops, Wellness Weekends and corporate wellness programs. Check out http://www.insightoutlifecoaching.com and take back control of your life today!